There’s a kind of luxury I only discovered when I started wanting less. Not the kind you can post. Not the kind you can unbox. Not the shiny ‘quiet luxury’ co-opted by marketing teams, selling £200 plain T-shirts to women still healing from burnout. I mean real luxury, the kind you feel in your nervous system. The filtered light through sheer curtains and uncluttered air. The subtle sound of good glass against porcelain. A fridge that’s clear. A shelf that makes sense. A wardrobe you don’t have to negotiate with every morning.

It didn’t always feel like this. I used to crave clutter disguised as aspiration. More clothes. More products. More supplements. More proof that I was ‘improving’, but nothing stuck. The purchases, the routines, the habits were all performative. Until I realised the craving wasn’t for more at all. It was for coherence.

We live in a time of compulsive self-renovation. Late-stage capitalism dressed as self-care. TikToks telling us to buy three new outfits for one dinner. Morning routines with fourteen steps and seven powders. The constant pressure to ‘build a better version’ of yourself: a sleeker body, a prettier kitchen, a more palatable online persona. Maintenance as identity. Carrie Bradshaw with 600 pairs of heels and no savings - modernised with Muji storage and a spreadsheet of adaptogens. The aesthetic has changed, but the overconsumption hasn’t. What used to be labelled materialism is now wrapped in oat milk and beige loungewear. What used to be impulsive is now marketed as intentional. It’s still about filling a void - just in softer colours.

But here’s the shift no one talks about: wanting less isn’t failure. Choosing fewer things isn’t a lack of imagination, it’s precision. I no longer crave to own everything. I want to live inside a mood, not buy fragments of it. Enough has become its own aesthetic. A life design. A boundary.

There’s a phrase I’ve been carrying around lately: buy it nice or buy it twice. It might sound reckless if you’ve ever spiralled through a shopping cart, but it’s true. If you don’t buy the beautiful, well-made version of something, you’ll end up buying it again (and again) until you do. The trench that unravels after one winter. The perfume you never quite love. The glassware so flimsy you avoid using it. Placeholders multiply, and they never satisfy.

I used to think this was just about consumption - ‘quality over quantity’. But it’s a philosophy. Buy it nice or buy it twice means compromise is exhausting. The temporary makes you restless. And sometimes the expensive, beautiful choice isn’t indulgence… it’s clarity. I know it works because the few pieces I’ve invested in have proved it. My Italian wool cream turtleneck that makes every pair of trousers look intentional and well put together. My Gucci slingbacks - the only heels I don’t kick off the moment I get home, and the ones I rewear endlessly, whether day or night. My L.L.Bean mini tote that turned out to be the most useful bag I own, small but perfectly proportioned. Even my good cotton white tee - just a basic, but cut so perfectly it replaced every other version in my wardrobe. I got rid of the rest, because I knew I’d never reach for them again. One piece, less stress, more space, more certainty. These are the things that last. They make the rest feel disposable by comparison.

Autumn, of all seasons, is the moment for clarity. It’s when wardrobes sharpen, interiors settle, rituals deepen. Summer’s provisional choices suddenly feel inadequate. September asks what’s worth keeping close, and what isn’t. So my wishlist this year is pared back, precise, and chosen with permanence in mind:

• Diptyque Ambre (full size) - because the travel candle is already gone and this scent has become atmosphere, not accessory.

• A suede brown bag from The Row - warm, velvety, and tactile, a piece that feels as seasonal as knitwear and candlelight.

• Cashmere socks in proper colours - camel, charcoal, forest green. Not another multipack of thin black or white ones I’ll resent.

• Brown leather gloves - sleek and timeless, the kind that keep me warm on cold walks without ruining an outfit.

• A Toteme coat - this has been on my wishlist for years. It’s sharp and sculptural, the kind of coat that becomes a signature. Not five almost-right versions, but the one I’ll keep reaching for year after year.

Maybe that’s the real heart of it: wanting less and buying better. It isn’t austerity and it isn’t indulgence. It’s permanence. It’s refusing placeholders in wardrobes, in interiors, in the small rituals that make a life. Autumn isn’t provisional. It’s coats, candles, routines with depth. And this year, I’d rather want less, choose better, and let it last.

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Maybe it’s the way the air sharpens. Maybe it’s the shop windows turning to brown suede and dark green wool. Or maybe it’s just the ritual - a new journal, a heavier candle, a coat that feels like costume. Whatever it is, September convinces us that something is starting again, even when nothing really is.

September has always been the month of reinvention. The light tilts differently, the days shorten, and suddenly life feels cinematic. It isn’t just a change of season, it’s an invitation - to reset, to edit, to step into a more composed version of ourselves than we were in August.

I’ve always loved that transition. The not-too-hot, not-too-cold days where you can wear suede and sunglasses at the same time. Streets lined with trees that refuse to choose, holding green at the edges while the centres blaze orange. Even the air seems undecided… sharp in the morning, softened by afternoon. It’s the season for layering, for illusions, for living in-between.

The Vogue September issue was once the cultural oracle: hundreds of pages thick, weighed down with possibility. It wasn’t just about clothes, but about self-invention. Even if you couldn’t afford the wardrobe inside, you felt drafted into a ritual - the reset, the declaration that this season you could be someone new.

I still chase that permission. Maybe that’s why I bought a new journal, knowing full well the last one isn’t finished. It’s not about completing pages; it’s about the clean first sheet, the neat handwriting at the top, the small pledge that this time will be different. The journal itself becomes an accessory of September - as essential as a coat.

It feels bittersweet this year. I’m finishing my Master’s - my final academic autumn. No more modules, no more reading lists to imagine myself completing. It’s the last time I can borrow that official sense of beginning. And so I hold onto it, rehearsing the ritual even as it slips away: the sharpened pencils, the idea of starting fresh. September asks us to be students of our own lives, whether or not the syllabus has ended.

My September is measured in coats, candles, and boots. A camel trench for city days. Knee-high suede boots that feel as right on wet pavements as they do on country paths. A Barbour jacket that carries the scent of woodsmoke, even if most of its work is done in cafés. Brown and dark green are the colours of the season (and also according to my colour analysis, my personal colours too) - richer now, glowing against earlier sunsets. I like the duality: city autumn and country autumn, two fantasies to slip between. In the city, trench coats, red wine, the first evenings under low light and in the countryside, waxed jackets, muddy boots and the illusion of simpler days. Both are stories, and September is when I get to tell them.

On Sunday it rained - not a drizzle, but a downpour, thunder rolling low across the fields. All summer I’d forgotten how much I love rain. The smell of wet earth and woodsmoke folding into the air, the sound of it drumming against the roof, the way the horizon blurred into mist. Everything looked washed clean, darker and softer at once. There’s a coziness in that kind of weather that feels more intimate than sunshine, the kind that makes you want to light a candle, write a page, pour a glass of red and let the storm keep time for you.

There’s something cinematic about the way culture mirrors this season, too. Think of shows like Gilmore Girls, where autumn is always eternal: leaves scattered across campus lawns, endless coffee refills, libraries humming in the background. That vision of September - cozy, studious, endlessly scripted in amber - lives rent-free in my head. I like that I can borrow it, whether I’m in the library finishing my thesis or driving out to the countryside, moving between the two worlds. Best of both, best of selves.

And always, there is the dream of the perfect New York fall. The montage I replay every year: walking through Central Park, latte steaming, skyline drenched in gold. Pumpkins stacked on West Village stoops. Bookshops in SoHo, gallery openings, dinners framed by candlelight. It’s a fiction, but it colours the way I see September streets wherever I am, as if they’ve been styled with me in mind.

September also announces itself through culture. Music shifts from summer anthems to duskier moods - Lana Del Rey on repeat, jazz records that sound better under a dim lamp, playlists curated for ‘studying’ even if all you’re doing is sipping wine. Galleries open their autumn shows, drawing people indoors. And then there are the rituals everyone pretends to mock but secretly craves: the pumpkin spice latte, that first cinnamon-dusted marker of the season’s arrival.

What I like most this year is reframing what September offers. It’s easy to treat the darker evenings as decline, the end of summer as loss. But what if it isn’t? September can be an aesthetic season, not a mournful one. Candles aren’t consolations, they’re punctuation. Coats aren’t defences, they’re costumes. Even the shorter days carry glamour when you decide to stage them.

So this is how I’ll remember September 2025:

• The soft, undecided air - warm at noon, cold by dusk.

• The leaves, green and orange at once, reminding me that transitions are allowed to be layered.

• The brown-and-green palette that belongs equally to city pavements and countryside paths.

• The journal waiting to be filled, a prop for reinvention.

• The boots and coats that feel like scripts, each one cueing a different role.

• The candle burning at dusk, not to mourn the light, but to mark the start of a scene.

• The cultural anchors: coffee refills, exhibitions, pumpkin spice lattes and the comfort of TV shows where it is always autumn somewhere.

September doesn’t promise perfection, only atmosphere. It’s not about endings, not even really about beginnings. It’s about the glamour of the in-between, a month that invites you to edit your life like an essay, stage it like a film, and carry it forward like a story. And maybe that’s what we get out of it: if September has always meant pressure to reinvent, the secret is to treat it less like a deadline and more like a film set - one where you choose the lighting, the costumes, the soundtrack.

If September is cinema, this is the soundtrack. Listen here:

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Hi. You’ve found Obsession Notes - essays on aesthetics, avoidance, and the art of appearing fine.

I won’t be giving advice here. I’m not qualified. What I will give you are notes on beauty, burnout, emotional rebrands, £42 candles, near-delusional confidence, and everything I’m currently obsessed with (which is either deeply aesthetic or deeply unhinged, no in-between).

Think of this as:

• A scrapbook for beautiful distractions

• A running monologue from the girl at brunch who drinks champagne before noon and says things like “He’s not mysterious, he just doesn’t like you”

• A collection of things keeping me fractionally intact

What to Expect

• Outfits I’d wear to my own nervous breakdown

• Things I romanticise so I don’t explode

• Micro-epiphanies disguised as skincare reviews

• Emotional weather reports from someone trying to heal, but glamorously.

I believe in dramatic silence, chilled wine, and applying lipliner as an act of resistance. I also believe the worst decisions make the best stories - so I write them down.

You won’t always learn how to be better here, but you will see how I try…again…and again. But you might feel less weird about how you’re already coping.

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• You’re in your ‘expensive perfume and no contact’ era

• You’ve ever cried in a hotel bath but still looked cool

• You want something to read that doesn’t feel like a TED Talk or an amazon ad

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• You think I need to “talk to someone about that”

• You don’t understand why a woman would spend £200 on a robe she only wears to ignore emails

I’ll be sending something soon. Until then, romanticise responsibly.

x

K.

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